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a guide on grief and estrangement for lgbtq+ young people


Grief is something we all experience at some point in our lives. It can be especially difficult for young people who have less life experience and may not realise there are other young people going through the same thing.

Grief can be extra complicated for LGBTQ+ young people as their sexual and gender identities may be intertwined with what they are experiencing. Grief can bring up all sorts of complex emotions, for instance “would my Grandad have been okay with me being trans?”.

Estranged young people may be grieving a relationship despite the other person not being deceased, and may have thoughts such as “I’ve not spoken to my mum in two years after she kicked me out for being lesbian, but I miss her/our relationship”.

Some young people may experience a mix of both bereavement and estrangement, whilst others may grieve in hypotheticals, wondering what a relationship could have been if things had been different.

This guide, created by akt and the Unite Foundation All of Us community, collates the feedback we received in our grief workshop on what type of information LGBTQ+ young people who are experiencing grief would like access to.

this guide will include resources and support on:

  • practicalities 

    how to manage probate, a funeral & someone’s estate.

  • finances

    the benefits & financial support you may be entitled to.

  • students

    how to talk to an employer about grief and advice for students.

  • therapy

    signposting to community support services and therapy.