If you’re thinking about coming out to your family we recommend having a think about some key things beforehand.

Everyone’s coming out story is different – some are positive, some not so great. Either way, it’s a good idea to plan ahead! We hope that the tips below can help you feel more prepared. If you need to talk to someone about coming out, remember akt is here for you.

Wait until you're ready

Don’t force a time or feel pressured to come out if you aren’t ready. Give yourself time to be clear about what you’re going to say and whether you need to adapt this for specific people. Consider the best time and place to come out to your parents. Wait until you feel safe.

Talk to someone you trust beforehand

Get in touch with a local LGBTQ+ group, someone at your school, or someone who you have already come out to. Build up a support network that can be there for you.

Know where to go if things go wrong

It’s a good idea to have a back up plan in case your family react negatively to your coming out or you no longer feel safe living at home. Is there a friend or family member you can stay with at short notice if you need to leave that day? What local service can you go to if you need to find accommodation? If you feel like you’re in danger you should call 999.

Have the important things ready to pack

If you have to leave home, you will need to take some important things with you.

Pack important documents like:

  • Passport
  • Driver’s license
  • Proof of income
  • National insurance number
  • Immigration-related documents 
  • Your phone and a phone charger
  • Bank cards and money.
  • Clothing to keep you going for a few days
  • Essential toiletries
  • Medication

Be proud of who you are!

There are people who will accept you for who you are, whether that’s in your family, your friendship group or the wider community. You will find places where you can feel safe. Make sure you recognise how brave it is of you to come out, and that sooner or later, you’ll be able to celebrate that!

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